I am naturally a curious person. I was always the kid that wanted to know why. It’s not that I was questioning authority, I really just wanted to know everything, ha! Thankfully, most of the time, my mom didn’t seem to mind. I can remember her saying that asking questions is how you get smart. Thanks for being patient, Mom!
I have found myself with kids who want to know the why of things as well. A lot of people in authority don’t want to be questioned, but to be honest, I would rather them be able to think things through instead of blindly following anything anyone says to them. I feel like developing this skill will help them become more independent, critical thinkers who are able to make decisions for themselves instead of just going along with what everyone else says.
As an adult, Christian woman who is a pastor’s wife, I still find myself having questions. A lot of people might be shocked to know this. I will admit that sometimes I’m not proud of it.
Just the other day, I admitted to my husband that I had been struggling with some things that I didn’t understand. I explained what I was struggling with and he began to give me answers that I knew were true. Every answer he gave me was the correct answer, but none of them satisfied the understanding that I longed for.
He finally gave me the best advice anyone could’ve given me. He said, “I think you and God just need to spend some together and get this worked out.” I started crying because I knew that’s exactly what I needed to do.
I was wrestling with this question, but I realized that I hadn’t actually asked God to give me the answer I needed.
Do you know that after spending just a little time with God about what I had been so uneasy about for such a long time, I finally had peace about it? I didn’t get any huge revelation about it, but when I spent some time with Him, I was able to know his heart and He was able to change mine. I was able to remember that even though I didn’t understand, He knows and does what is best.
Have you ever had someone to make a decision that you didn’t understand and you just couldn’t seem to get past it? You finally decide to speak to the person about it and they can’t give you the specific details on why they made the decision, but you left the meeting feeling relieved and at peace? You still didn’t have the answer you wanted, but you were able to spend some time with the person, hear their heart, and trust that they made the decision with the right intentions.
Sometimes I think that when we have a hard time trusting God, we are actually having a hard time trusting ourselves. It’s hard for me to understand a God so good that will never fail me when I know how much I love the ones closest to me, but I still let them down all the time. It’s the worst feeling ever. But I can trust God even though it’s hard for me to trust myself, because He is God! That puts him on a totally different level that can’t be compared to man.
Jesus walked on earth as a man and didn’t sin. Do you know what He did do? He asked God a question. Mark 15:34 says, “And at the ninth hour Jesus cried with a loud voice, saying, Eloi, Eloi, lama sabachthani? which is, being interpreted, My God, my God, why hast thou forsaken me?”
Wait, what? Jesus asked God why he had forsaken Him? But I thought this was Jesus we were talking about? I thought He was perfect? Well, it was and He was. He already knew everything there was to know about the situation, but He still struggled with it. I think this is in the Bible to let us know that if Jesus asked this kind of a question, God is okay with our questions too. The difference between us and Him so many times is that He took it to God instead of just continuing to wonder. I encourage you to do the same.
Now there are times that, just like I need my kids to obey me without question, God needs us to obey Him with a blind faith just because we know His heart toward us. Please don’t misinterpret this to mean that we should be suspicious of God and question everything that He does.
I’m also not saying that all questions are created equal. If you are going to ask God a question, it is necessary to ask Him with a desire to know the truth. Don’t question Him with an answer already in mind and a desire to prove Him wrong.
The Bible says in James 1:5: “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.”
I had that scripture hanging in my shower for the longest time, which my husband thought was hilarious. It was in a plastic sandwich baggie taped to the wall of the shower. I had it there because I knew I would see it every day when I took a shower. It would remind me to take my questions to God and that He would not be offended that I did.
I challenge you: take your questions to Him as well. I believe that you will leave your time with God having a closeness that you didn’t have before because He is always good.
“O taste and see that the Lord is good: blessed is the man that trusteth in him.” Psalm 34:8
Telina Frye is the author of Dare to Dream, as well as a pastor’s wife and mother to her 13 year old son and 10 year old daughter.
She is a singer/songwriter and a natural born dreamer. Telina is also credentialed in the Church of God as an Exhorter and holds a Minister of Music License. She serves as the worship leader at the church where her husband serves as lead pastor.
Telina loves having deep, meaningful conversations about what is and what could be. She hopes this blog will inspire readers to dare to look past what is, see what can be, and reach for the impossible.